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TO FIGHT OR NOT TO FIGHT. WHO IS THE STRONGEST?

Conflicts between human beings rarely have a rational motive. They are almost always emotional. And emotional to the limits of insanity. They begin because of a certain modulation of the voice or the imperceptible contraction of a facial muscle, captured by the instinctive unconscious, which will deflate an entire system of self-defense and the humanoid will respond with causticity.
From there, each hominid will place himself inside a fortress and try to defend his views, trying to prove to the other that he is right. The problem is that the two of them will be doing the same thing, and therefore will not get anywhere.
The smartest strategy used by successful people is to think with the head of the other. Reality is a matter of optics. If you start applying this tactic, you will see how easy it is not to fight.
Using that resource, you will not be inferior or weaker. On the contrary, you will be taking the first steps in the art of dominating the adversary, making him no longer see you as an aggressor. After he is no longer on the defensive and the emotional climate is affectionate, you can get whatever you want - no fighting!
The best generals were those who defeated enemies without appealing to the high cost of battles.
Compare the cost/benefit of a grueling fight between people who love each other, which can last infinite hours or even days; it may leave sequels as a pain for the rest of life; may compromise sexual desire; it may even generate a definitive break. Compare that to being in command and discovering what kind of love, what kind of physiognomy, what tone of voice, what kind of phrase, could melt your partner and throw him defenseless at his feet!
Now consider: who is stronger, the one who faces or the one who manages not to fight?
* Excerpted from  DeRose's Affective Relationship Book .
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